could be a blessing in disguise.

I don't think I know anyone with children who at one time or another hasn't had these kinds of moments. "If I'd only done this or not done that"...which may or may not actually have anything to do with a circumstance in the here and now. It's always more complicated than it may seem to be. Glad to hear you're cool. Just stay that way.

I got my fingers crossed

see, it aint all bad news.
remember signing up these days isnt the same as it was, theres no honour to be had anymore. not that there ever was but at least the soldiers in ww2 or such where fighting against something rather than for oil.
least he aint a f**ked puppet now

there's a slight flaw in the logic there, though I do agree to an extent. Remember I was in the service just post vietnamn which imo was a bigger fiasco than this war. The oath a soldier takes




that is the exact oath I took, part 1 is still honorable. Part 2 is open to interpretation largely based on the era you are currently in as the constitution is always open to interpretation and that's what the judicial branch is for. Part 3 is the catch 22, it's honorable to defend your homeland against invaders and protect fellow citizens but they get you with that last clause. It's honorable to do dishonorable things even if the those in command are dishonorable. It's dishonorable to question the acts of dishonorable leaders or act with honor that defies the dishonorable orders of a superior even if that superior is inferior.

I'm feeling relieved. I feared the worst for my situation, and although part of me was still trying to be hopeful I knew it was foolish to wish for an unrealistic best case scenario too. What actually did end up happening is ok and will allow us to move forward in a positive and more realistic way, albeit more at a cautious level.

that sounds good ugo caution is always good. I'm thinking right now I'm waiting along time for my father's taxes. I had them done after discovering that it had not been done. It's his taxes for 05 and 06, meanwhile I'm at an interesting crossroads. I lived in this building for a little over 13 yeats and I have had it. A year ago in March we put our name on a waiting list for some really nice apartments across the river and about 3/4 of a mile up the river. Now my lease here expires June 1st, if I want to stay a tenant at will it will cost me 100 bucks more a month. If I sign a lease and break it the cost is 2k, so what to do.

I think the concept behind a lease is not to have transients, I'm hoping I can work out a deal with the people here because they can't complain about what they made from me. I need to move, it's the best thing I can do to turn some pages and my daughter stays in the same school. It's really in a country setting with a golf course near by, it's on the edge of a state forest. I dread moving though, I have so much stuff and I can't do it now. I can do some stuff but not a lot. I'll have to hire someone

@military

I bless the ground they walk on, I realize they are not perfect, but they are following orders. I don't believe many members of kvr are from countries with crappy military/dictatorships, or they probably wouldn't be able to make music the way they/we want.

I wanted to be in the military, as it turns out, I had "things" wrong with me I didn't even know about. And back then (which is way back) a family member was too "top secret" for me to be accepted (I don't know if it's still that way) Frankly, I think I would have turned out much better in the long run if I'd have had a chance to "serve" my country.

Yeah, proceeding with more caution is probably what we should have done in the first place. All this is because I just started dating a very close friend of mine who I have really wanted to date for year, and she now decided she feels similarly. After a particularly good day with each other we decided to start a relationship and go exclusive right off the bat...only to have the both of us get scared and emotionally defensive on our first date as a couple, ending with her essentially walling herself up from me. (Important note: we're both Woody Allen level neurotics.) I spent the next two days waiting for the call that she was going to dump me.

Thankfully that did not turn out to be the case. We had a great talk last night and she still wants to date me (thank god!) We realized that we both went into it with such unreasonably high expectations that we freaked ourselves out, and it was exacerbated by several personal issues that we each have...but that we want to work through them together. So we've established that both of us really do want to continue and give this a real chance, but that we need to try to learn to relax, go with the flow, and simply enjoy each others company...like we did up until a few days ago, when we were still just friends. Also our communication needs to be to be 100% open. The talk ended with us laughing and joking like we normally do, and we both felt greatly relieved.

A concession I was less thrilled about having to make is that we've downgraded from exclusive status to just dating. Neither of us is interested in anyone else right now, but doing so takes the pressure off of our having to be an official couple. This is the "proceed with caution" part. Testing the waters with simply dating first probably does make more sense than jumping right in with exclusivity. But I was so excited that she finally not only wanted to date me...but only me...and that I was finally going to be in a relationship again (its been a freakishly long time since my last one) that dropping back down is a bit disappointing and makes me feel less secure. The thing is, I know I wouldn't feel this way if we had started out at a basic dating level in the first place, so I need to readjust my thought patterns and accept that what we are doing now is actually what we should have done first. That this is the right way, and not a consequence.

Of course now both of us will be going into our next date (tomorrow) with stress again because of all that has happened. But hopefully we can start to put into practice the knowledge we gained last night, keep communication strong, and work with each other to relax back into how we felt with each other before we freaked ourselves out Tuesday night.



Hopefully your landlords will be willing to work with you and that your move will turn out ok. It sounds like you need the change and that the places you've had your eye on sound really nice. Do they expect one to become available before long?

Moving is always such a pain in the ass. Up until my last move, I always hauled most of my crap by myself and got some help from friends for the big pieces. But this last time I didn't have much backup and I didn't want to have to deal with trying to move everything myself again, so I hired some movers...and it was well worth it. Of course I took my gear over ahead of time on my own, and still moved a lot of stuff by myself, but I let them take the bulk of it and all my furniture. They did do some damage to a bookcase but otherwise everything arrived in one piece. I still ended up moving enough stuff on my own to screw up my back pretty badly for about a month (weak lower back), so had I taken it all on I would have really done major damage. Next time I'm letting the movers do even more. It's worth spending the cash to let them do the work and the pros can get the job done way faster than me and a few friends could.

aah. your first post didn't indicate the region of concern. please record a contrabass bridge impulse for me

ugo good luck with the new relationship, or change in status

My today's thinking besides being happy about this great mic I got as a gift is about AIG. Them damn three letters have been the worst nightmare of my life, the law suit I was involved in was about an AIG annuity. The crux of it comes down to AIG sending the wrong person notice that they were the beneficiary, they corrected their mistake before paying out. I was accused of fraud, forgery and coercion because the beneficiary was changed to me 6 months earlier, but for some reason there was no original beneficiary change on file and they did not recognize the change for months as a result. But they did recognize it before my father died but we're talking a couple of weeks here and I was notified too.


Somewhere between March of 06 and August of 06 someone screwed up and it could only be either the person who filed the change (my father's lawyer) or AIG. The bottom line is the missing original document and mistaken letter that went out was enough for a valid legal question and hence my getting sued. I am out of pocket 30k over this, I thought I had a plan of action...until now.

I do think (and this wont go over well with anyone in my family) that it might behoove me to talk with the person who sued me, perhaps we should join forces though what she did to me was unforgivable. She's out a lot more than me in legal fees, I'm not sure what to do. But damn it, I want my money back!!!!

Considering the hell you clearly went through, and the acrimonious and seemingly less than trusting relationship you had/have with the person who sued you...is the money worth stirring that pot again?

the problem is the person who sued me isn't actually the same person who was so disrespectful. It was the daughter of my father's lady friend who assumed I did some thing wrong. She used her power of attorney to sue, so technically my co-plaintiff would be my father's lady friend who I love very much and have not been able to see in almost three years. The daughter can go to hell, but I could mend the fence she broke.

I find it interesting (and a little comforting) that craftsman is advertising here now. I LOVE my craftsmen tools

please dont misunderstand me, its not the people who sign up i have a problem with. it is those who give the orders that give me pause for thought.