TheoM wrote:I will NEVER name and shame and go that route. Not going to happen, not interested in it happening. As i have said 1000 times before here, i don't like getting personal at KVR. This is the MP and the point of the topic was to talk about how people feel about re negs in general and if there should be a neg feedback forum (which personally I don't want, i just wanted to see other's opinions), it's all on topic, it has nothing to do about attention or a whine or whatever you may think. You can go on believing that if you like, that's your prerogative.
As far as the fees, THIS is how i said it " I can offer you a deal with a deposit and give you till January to pay as i understand it's a lot of money. I would ask in return you pay the shipping and 15 euro transfer fee which will be a total cost of not more than $50 USD extra for you"
with reply "that sounds fair, how does 500 down sound, 500 in sept, 500 in october"
Like i said he had no desire to work things out... If he came and said, PP gift will be too hard as i am using my CC and fees are too high, I would have met him half way without a second thought (PP fees are very very low if using bank or balance.. it's only the CC that kills it).. ALl i got was i am backing out of the deal as i decided it's too much money. That's it. No attempt at any contact, no real apology...
the guy should have apologised. were it me, i would have done so, and been hugely embarrassed. but i would not have gone through with the deal if i changes my mind, especially given the huge amount involved.
being honest, theo, do you really think that he should be forced to do buy it ?? once you dispense with your own grief at the mistake you made (spending money before it arrived), are you really saying that he should be expected to honour a deal of over 1500 euros, even though he clearly decided against it ?? i am not saying your time spent on emails, and your flexibility to accommodate him (which would also benefit you in the end, given how huge a product it is to shift in the manner you are trying to), was worth nothing. however, are you really saying that you were so inconvenienced by this whole thing that he should pay ??
TheoM wrote:I will NEVER name and shame and go that route. Not going to happen, not interested in it happening. As i have said 1000 times before here, i don't like getting personal at KVR
except at the end you asked
TheoM wrote:or do you think i SHOULD name and shame so to speak.. or just let it go?
as for not getting personal ?? well, you have dragged people through the dirt all over these forums, on a few notable occasions.
TheoM wrote:i just wanted to see other's opinions
except you took exception to my opinion and felt quite justified getting personal, questioning my morals, my integrity, and announcing how i was the kind of person you would never do business with. that was a personal attack, and i took the liberty of responding in kind
TheoM wrote:it's all on topic, it has nothing to do about attention or a whine or whatever you may think. You can go on believing that if you like, that's your prerogative.
and my initial reply was on topic. i accused you of whining in response to you insinuations regarding me. but the truth is that you were whining about being out of pocket. not that i don't sympathise, but it has no relevance to this thread, other than to garner pity from people and to add a much more weighty emotional response to your complaint i.e how much of an arsehole this guy must have been to have put you in such a position
you, of all people, should know that the marketplace is something to be careful with. i imagine that you are quite well aware of how much of an 'ask' it is for someone to go from not owning a program, to coughing up for it plus all the expansions, and that is why you went to great lengths to bend to accommodate them. it was also in your interests to do so. it looks like you were so desperate to get rid of it, that you were prepared to take risks with follow-up payments etc. i think you to be very benevolent, so i am not making you out to be devious in any way at all, but maybe don't make yourself out a martyr either
truth is, had you not spent the money before it was signed and sealed this thread would likely not exist. you would have been, rightfully, a little pissed, but would have just got on with it
as for negative feedback threads ?? i think you know that those are open to abuse, and most times unlikely to be representative of anything worthy of noting. for some perspective, were i to know this guy's name, i think there is nothing in your complaint that would put me off dealing with him in future