That's pretty good too."Eat food. It's good." Fat Albert
So whats the best piece of advice you've ever gotten?
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- Rad Grandad
- 38041 posts since 6 Sep, 2003 from Downeast Maine
Well i too have several gay friends...but' it's not like you would know that about him...he doesn't express his opinion to others, or at least not that I've seen. He just doesn't understand the lifestyle so it's more comfortable for him in his mind to disaprove. It's quite common, and one thing I can say is I'm sure there are just as many gay people who wouldn't understand his lifestyle.emdot_ambient wrote:Yeah, okay, after that explanation I'll have to concede the point. Your situation reminds me of a less severe problem I have with a friend who's into all kinds of paranormal activity and New Age philosophies. I can't talk about it with him 'cuase he doesn't discuss it, he preaches. And as soon as you're in a "I am going to convince you to think otherwise" situation, true discussion goes out the window and it becomes a battle of belligerency. If the rest of the relationship is positive, there's no need to junk the whole thing just because you can't see eye-to-eye on every subject.Hink wrote:well I took it to mean that if you cant discuss everything you're not true friends...but that imo is not true...emdot_ambient wrote:I think Putte's point was that even if you don't believe the same thing, true friends can still discuss their beliefs. My wife and I are best friends. She devoutly believes in Tibetan Buddhism, whereas I believe that all organized religions are just cultural interpretations of the psychological experiences we all share due to our common physiology. And yet we're able to discuss these ideas without endangering our friendship.Hink wrote:I dont know that I agree with that....someone could be a zealous christian while another person is not....friends do not have to agree or believe on everything and furthermore with friendships comes wisdom...putte wrote:but then they weren´t friends in the first place ..Har wrote: "Never discuss politics, religion or sex with friends (or family)...it's an almost guarenteed way to ensure they quickly become NOT your friends."
putte
On the other hand . . . I couldn't really maintain a close friendship with the person you're talking about. I have way too many gay friends.
However when that group that came here to protest a school where a young girl recieved an award for writing a paper about gay tollerance, his words were "I like to see someone shove those signs up their asses". (meaning the protestors were assholes, and the school was near his house), That and the fact that it took a while, but eventually he chose acceptance and our friendship over his beliefs speaks volumes.
Often tg persons (myself included) have a tendancy to once they come out, they tell everybody...and quite often the friends they tell feel betrayed by a lack of trust...especially (and logically so) with spouses.
FWIW he lives alone with his dog and his Harley...and always will...
but if it came to helping someone, stranger or friend....trust me he would not be worrying about someones sexual preferences. Who knows (I dont ask) but it's possible he was molested as a child by a man. Truth be known I met him through his younger brother years ago (close to 30) and know Mike had some issues growing up...back then he was a junkie and I really didn't like him...but he changed...what those issues were imo none of my business...if he wanted me to know he'd tell me...
edit...remember your monty python quote, I apply that to all people....some of us have paths the cross often, others only cross once...either way I try to look for the postive side and hope to make it an enriching expeirence for both of us...
The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound, purpose‐larger‐than‐the‐self kind of understanding.
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- KVRian
- 759 posts since 22 Mar, 2002 from fi
"take life as it comes"
still working on it, though
still working on it, though
never stop loving music.
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- KVRAF
- 3388 posts since 29 May, 2001 from New York, NY
"as you get old, try to always stay young"
not a bad advice, coming from a 90+ lady.
'Tick
not a bad advice, coming from a 90+ lady.
'Tick
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- KVRAF
- 2321 posts since 23 Mar, 2004 from Two lower than LS6
my two fave pices of advice are:
"dont give a f**k what other people think of you"
(really i need that one, or will die of chronic shyness)
and
"f**k off you f**king c**t"
(which is probably due to the first piece of advice)
"dont give a f**k what other people think of you"
(really i need that one, or will die of chronic shyness)
and
"f**k off you f**king c**t"
(which is probably due to the first piece of advice)
Phil
"The fool who persists in his folly will become wise" - William Blake
*No more band for me* | **My Host**
"The fool who persists in his folly will become wise" - William Blake
*No more band for me* | **My Host**
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- KVRAF
- 2844 posts since 1 Jan, 2003
Many excellent bits of advice in this thread! Har's smart words- "Life's too short to put up with asshole family members." has inspired me to come up with this new
Theory of Relativity
Your relatives (large object) have warped the space around you (small object), therefore you are drawn toward them.
As you approach your family, you will experience time dilation. Time will appear to slow down to the point of standing still.
You will experience length contraction. You will feel much smaller around your family than you normally do.
You will experience a red shift. As your wavelength shifts towards the larger value, you will find yourself thinking strange thoughts.
Since gravity pulling in one direction is completely equivalent to an acceleration in the opposite direction, once around your family, you will have trouble escaping. The harder you try to make an exit, the more they will try to pull you back in.
The unbalanced self-gravitational attraction of your family might eventually cause it to collapse, creating a black hole from which you will never escape.
Theory of Relativity
Your relatives (large object) have warped the space around you (small object), therefore you are drawn toward them.
As you approach your family, you will experience time dilation. Time will appear to slow down to the point of standing still.
You will experience length contraction. You will feel much smaller around your family than you normally do.
You will experience a red shift. As your wavelength shifts towards the larger value, you will find yourself thinking strange thoughts.
Since gravity pulling in one direction is completely equivalent to an acceleration in the opposite direction, once around your family, you will have trouble escaping. The harder you try to make an exit, the more they will try to pull you back in.
The unbalanced self-gravitational attraction of your family might eventually cause it to collapse, creating a black hole from which you will never escape.
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- addled muppet weed
- 111326 posts since 26 Jan, 2003 from through the looking glass
hmmm bunnyboy shy 
im guessing hes forgetting the floorshow 
im guessing hes forgetting the floorshow
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- Rad Grandad
- 38041 posts since 6 Sep, 2003 from Downeast Maine
yeah go on....vurt wrote:hmmm bunnyboy shy
im guessing hes forgetting the floorshow
The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound, purpose‐larger‐than‐the‐self kind of understanding.
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- Rad Grandad
- 38041 posts since 6 Sep, 2003 from Downeast Maine
I'd of circumnavigated the earth twenty times by now if I did thatew wrote:Musically?
"If you can't nail it in three takes, move on to something else."
ew
seriously though....it seems too me that sticking with something no matter how long it takes to nail might be more benficial for artistic growth...I prefer a challenge myself...
The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound, purpose‐larger‐than‐the‐self kind of understanding.
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- KVRAF
- 2356 posts since 30 Sep, 2003 from Sunny Staffordshire
Absolutely!
Even if you cant nail it, the experience will fair you well. Say you try to learn a piece of music which really is far beyond your capability - even if you cant crack it, you stuff you used to play will seem like a piece of piss in comparison.
So i guess my advice for the day would be:
"Nothing is ever wasted"
Even if you cant nail it, the experience will fair you well. Say you try to learn a piece of music which really is far beyond your capability - even if you cant crack it, you stuff you used to play will seem like a piece of piss in comparison.
So i guess my advice for the day would be:
"Nothing is ever wasted"
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- addled muppet weed
- 111326 posts since 26 Jan, 2003 from through the looking glass
i am.
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- Rad Grandad
- 38041 posts since 6 Sep, 2003 from Downeast Maine
isn't that like saying water is wet?vurt wrote:i am.
The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound, purpose‐larger‐than‐the‐self kind of understanding.
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- Skunk Mod
- 21249 posts since 10 Jun, 2004 from Pony Pasture
Hm, that would make a great song!
I am, I said
To no one there,
And no one heard at all --
Not even the chair.
I am, I cried,
I am, said I.
And I am lost and I can't
Even say why.
Naaah. Never work.
I am, I said
To no one there,
And no one heard at all --
Not even the chair.
I am, I cried,
I am, said I.
And I am lost and I can't
Even say why.
Naaah. Never work.