I'm going to add to that because a lot of people may not understand how to stay detached.
When I say "you", I'm referring to people in general.
You're more than your music.
You do other things, you have done other things, etc.
Music is not anyone's only accomplishment, and for the most part, I see a lot of people on KVR who study multiple disciplines. That makes you educated, even if your education isn't formal. If your education isn't formal, that just means you're succeeding against the odds.
You love things other than music, right? Those things make up who you are too.
I've thought about giving up music. Not because I feel like a failure, but because I'm trying to decide if it's really what I want to do.
I'm pretty successful at music, but I'm successful at other things too.
You have to do what makes you happy, not what makes you "good".
It's that pursuit of validation that makes people think they fail when they really haven't.
Everyone needs validation, but you stay detached by understanding that other things in your life validate you besides music.
And the trick to finding those things is examining the things you love. Not necessarily love to do, but just things you love in general.
I like 90's Playstation games. Resident Evil: Director's Cut is my favorite game and I love talking about Shinji Mikami's true vision of a survival simulator first and horror game second.
Makes me feel good. I'm privileged to have experienced that game and I'm privileged to understand Shinji Mikami. Focusing on what you love makes you feel good, generates good feelings, and ultimately self-acceptance.
It sounds insignificant, but little stuff like the above adds up.
Then one day, you realize you failed, and you realize it's because you're not trying hard enough anymore because you stopped caring what other people think somewhere down the line.
Got all that?
Probably not. No one reads my posts.


