I agree with all the above, even BONES’ quoted text(!!). I have gone through this Q&A multiple times. When people ask these questions, you can tell they are expecting a sort of script to play out, with only certain responses being possible (genre & instrument you play). It’s more like a Choose-your-own-Adventure, where there are only certain responses you’re allowed to make.an-electric-heart wrote: Mon May 06, 2019 5:57 amActually, the conversation goes something like this; Someone hears that I'm a musician from somebody else (normally this conversation takes place with someone I don't know while I'm at work), they say "I hear you're a musician?", I say "Yes, that's correct". They say "What do you play?", I say "I'm mostly a singer, but I can play guitar, keys and drums." Then they say "Are you in band?", Then, I say "No, I'm more of a producer, I make records at home by myself, I have a small home studio"... but at that point you've lost them and they don't know what you're talking about... and that's why they're asking me, rather than me telling them. It's quite a niche subject, I'd talk about it with musicians, but I don't really like talking about it with non-musicians. And to my musician friends I don't need to describe myself as anything.BONES wrote: Mon May 06, 2019 4:16 amI just say "I make music". It's a simple statement of fact that isn't really up for interpretation. If they ask what kind of music, I say "really loud music". If they ask what instrument I play, I say "laptop, mostly". If they persist after that I point over their shoulder and say "did you see that!?!" and run away as soon as they turn their head.an-electric-heart wrote: Thu May 02, 2019 11:41 pm Yeah, I don't get it. That's how I describe myself. Rather than "multi-instrumentalist, singer and sound-engineer", it's easier to just say "producer".![]()
That scenario probably all sounds quite arrogant... but yeah, I've had that conversation pretty much word for word more times than I count. In the end it's just like "Trust me... you don't really want me to talk to you about this stuff... for you it'll be boring".![]()
I then proceed to make responses that aren’t in their menu of options. Their faces make that confused Tucker Carlson dog face,

and they usually stop actively listening (and are readying their next shallow, easier line of conversation that they can feel confident about).
Indeed it is only fellow computer-using musicians who “get it”. It’s not arrogant. It’s just the collision of “shallow understanding of specialist area” with “deep understanding of specialist area”.
