^^^me tookillmaster wrote: Thu Apr 15, 2021 6:18 pmI must express disagreementghettosynth wrote: Thu Apr 15, 2021 6:05 pmIn an unnecessarily aggressive way.Urs wrote: Thu Apr 15, 2021 5:55 pmBut thing is, I don't make aggressive comments. I only react to them.
I have a lot more of this thread to read because I stopped for a few minutes
It's even harder on the internet to understand our emotional context for lack of a better term. I get this at work just like every parent gets this "you dont have to yell", at work with kids we keep our rate, tone and volume under control but the slightest elevation in my voice sets some kids off. I explain to them that it's not anger, it's not negative, it is how I am (and because I work with my son too, I say "just ask asher") and if it is important or if I think it's going to stop them from being unsuccessful I ask them to use their words with me and lets talk.
There are also cultural differences that will come into play, I think we owe to all to try and understand these things. This is a well traveled road and it appears to me to be a dead end...do threads need to be derailed by it?
