aciddose i'm not sure what you are trying to say, but i meant what i said.aciddose wrote:"will never understand that their actions are wrong"
because they are
"so strongly and passionately commited to their own ideals that they cannot fathom anothers perspective"
just wanted to point out that statement discribes itself..
do you mean that i am wrong and that i cannot see from AQ's perspective? if so, no that is not the case, because i have empathy for AQ. he has to feel quite intimidated by gol, i know i would be(this is the empathic bit), because gol is an excellent and proven coder. i also feel for him in that i too am passionate about the things i invest my time and blood and sweat into. i feel for him on many many levels, and i was genuinely trying to help him out by posting what i did. now that he's screamed at me like an obnoxious lunatic, i wont bother trying anymore. it's futile.
it is horribly shitty when something you love and have put so much of your heart into is shat on and tossed aside or minimalized/reduced with only it's flaws emphasized and it's strengths not mentioned.
i feel for AQ alot, i know he cares about his work, and at this stage of the conversation/thread/war/whatever, it's reaching a point of no return where AQ is going to, perhaps by no fault of his own, blemish his reputation and jeopardize future business. i for one personally dont care what devs say to each other as it relates to buying or not buying some product they create (i point you to the tone2/refx war that was professionally avoided in the refx nexus thread), so it's not going to hurt business for them or lose my sale, however there are quite a few here watching that would probably add AQ or gol or both to their developer twitlist in spite of this whole mess.
that it's nothing personal, but when people act in such a manner, it is very easy to emphasize only that part of the person, disqualifying all of their accomplishments and virtues in one fell-swoop because of their actions.
the saddest part of this is that both were trying to help in their own way i think.

